Birthday wish to my MOM

Saying Happy belated birthday to my mom.
Sorry, I could not call because Your husband" my father threatened legal action against me if I call the house. I understand the does not allow you to call me for decades now. I know he did not allow me to talk to my obasan, or ogesan or cousins in Japan either.
He is truly awful, as awful as his friends who only hurt our family. I lost my siblings and all USA family support due to his actions. I am stalked and harassed continuously throughout my life due to his poor choices with regards to my life.
His hatred, and want to belong to his racist friends and coworkers who hate us.
Until he apologizes there is nothing to forgive and his actions stand alone for all to judge.