Growing up Half Japanese: my mom's friends in PA

My mothers American born friends were the kinds of people who invited her to everything and their kids weddings and took huge amounts of money as gifts. They in turn never sent a birthday, congratulations, or any gift or showed up to my or my brother's graduation. They stole from us, mocked me and my brother, and were horrible in general. I seriously don't call that friendship.
My mother also afraid to call me for fear of my being killed by NA Illuminati types and or my father and his friends  ex- military or not.