Growing up Half Japanese: my mom's friends in PA

My mothers American born friends were the kinds of people who invited her to everything and their kids weddings and took huge amounts of money as gifts. They in turn never sent a birthday, congratulations, or any gift or showed up to my or my brother's graduation. They stole from us, mocked me and my brother, and were horrible in general. I seriously don't call that friendship.
My mother also afraid to call me for fear of my being killed by NA Illuminati types and or my father and his friends  ex- military or not.

my Similie for my being on the East Coast

It's like trying to start your own golf course in the middle of the Gobi (desert).
You need water to make a green;- yet it keeps evaporating. --- AMK