Hawaii guys- "Community Leader" type

The "Community Leader" 

He is respected by his community through a variety of organizations. Not all of these men are bad to date, however, watch out for the bad ones. Underneath their strong & statured posturing as a role model;- the stress will be vented somewhere where he thinks no one is looking. Every type of abuse can be dished out freely financial, physical, emotional. Usually the financial & physical abuse are firsts and he considers your emotional response to him "your problem alone" because His feelings are superior and more worthy of attention.  He may be single & seem baggage free. However, because of his position, he firmly believes that the social organizations for abused women exist specifically so he CAN abuse women and not feel bad about it because "someone" will take care of them. 

If you can't handle making a community spectacle of your disaster, you will suffer silently & alone.

Guys- the Hawaii type "why post?"

Since its out to some of the Locals that some of my Overseas relatives caused security strife on island. Iow:- they blame me for costing them a ton of money in fresh background checks on their security staff. (One owner said to my face). 

I just want to run through some of the local "types" I've learned to spot in a few years. I'm also posting because these men make the horror stories that women share on island. The stories that keep military wives & kids on mainland. The women who are trapped in Hawaii due to court or financial destitution from the men involved.

In the midst of Hawaii state having laws that don't permit people involved in court proceedings to "Leave" the island state as if it's Attica;- 

it would be Great if there are laws or a system that "Checks on its vacationing newcomers with round trip tickets a day or even 6hrs before departure." (Especially single women)

Also if you come to Hawaii make sure there is more than texting relatives or a phone call back home to check in. FaceTime or Video Skype the room/area just to see who might be there, or um Here.

Guys - the "Hawaii Type" - fedZ

The fedZ - they don't look like the tatted up MMA star Police. These guys are the clean cut model type (2009-2015) who may be ready to make their tabloid review with unforsaken "dad bod" in the near future (present). They are the rule breakers who can bust ur face with a golf club, drop you out of the helicopter to some sharks over by O beach. We know there are 20tagged Tigers, estimated 100 @ islands not including hammerheads.

Rumoured They used to run their own "prostitution stables". Steer away from the pretty boys, some get their hot cars from US gov. Others are hustling trust fund babies.

Guys - the "Hawaii Types" - drama king

The Drama King - he has the primo pad/ location, even if it's a vacation rental. At any age he can still pick up women within a 45min drive on island. He lures them. They lie about their relationship to him. His friends, Need to be unreliable enough to preserve friendship and stay out of the way of the police. Usually an angry boyfriend or husband will appear, joined by cops not soon after.

He also is the one to rescue the fair maiden in a pit of other lesser drama kings.

Guys - the "Hawaii types" - status quo

The Status quo local- 1st read about all the other types of guys here in Hawaii, the USS err USA sex vacation state. 

The status quo local knows he can (this may be past tense in near future) live off his exotic HawAii local woman...either from buy-me-drinke bar money or strip club money in exchange for "protection". Protection? Protection of him not being hungry or broke. Aka - a pimp. 

Many do have martial arts training and do actually loose their tempers and destroy property or become abusive. Though many are sexy like male hula dancers and fighters should be.

This really applies to most of the other types of men who reside in Hawaii who don't or can't support a woman. Because the woman typically has to be a "woman of the night" in order to make ends meet (mostly for him). And it includes all of the theft & social problems of highly competitive bill paying for the cost of living on the island. finding a man "out here" in the islands who can keep the drama to a minimum is trying to say the least. 

Guys - the "Hawaii type" - Married

The Married - this is so classic. 

• the wife doesn't want to sign the actual divorce papers, won't let him go

• is "top secret" military and hides everything on the mainland and in his secret computer- pics of kids & all. Might let u in on it l8r like after a year.

• got a divorce from his last wife. You saw the court filing online Hawaii state. Then, he JUST got married again a month after you were dating him and still dating.

• swingers- calls his wife to talk to you and she claims they are divorced. Everyone else tells you he's married and treats women badly after month 2. Expect to get a restraining order by that time. Believe your trusted homies.

• most classic- openly states they are staying together for the kids but doesn't want to be seen out in public with you for the Kid's sake. 

Guys - the "Hawaii Types" - rehab

The Rehab victim- this one is simple. Go out, have a great time, are in public when he passes out and valets need to carry him to his car u now have to drive. IOW:- you are his "party chauffeur" 

Be sure to ask if he has any health conditions or medication. He takes before this date. Things could get gnarly to the hospital for you or him or his hapless victims.

I had one of these men seem awake when we got to his house and pass out once he opened the door. He passed on on his way out the car door and lay on the pavement by the car so I spent the night sleeping "in his car". Ugh

Guys - the "Hawaii types"- match

The Match dah cum Guy- go yuk! Then realise the bar fly guys that you recently deleted, you remember that the profile photo you clicked No!. He just sent it to you. Just hustled your number from a guy you exchanged numbers with. Go ugh, groan, grrrr as the texts flood in and you wonder how the online site gave him your contact number. Well, they didn't.

Several phone calls later & after Valentine's and Mardis gras partying with the we exchanged numbers person u met all with all his friends.... You learn he Gave ur number to the guy u deleted... Groan

Oh, and if your like me, have the online dating site as a gift from a "nice guy friend". He gets middle of the night calls from other women who used the site to date and call him because they were assaulted and need a shoulder to cry on.