Hawaii guys- "Community Leader" type

The "Community Leader" 

He is respected by his community through a variety of organizations. Not all of these men are bad to date, however, watch out for the bad ones. Underneath their strong & statured posturing as a role model;- the stress will be vented somewhere where he thinks no one is looking. Every type of abuse can be dished out freely financial, physical, emotional. Usually the financial & physical abuse are firsts and he considers your emotional response to him "your problem alone" because His feelings are superior and more worthy of attention.  He may be single & seem baggage free. However, because of his position, he firmly believes that the social organizations for abused women exist specifically so he CAN abuse women and not feel bad about it because "someone" will take care of them. 

If you can't handle making a community spectacle of your disaster, you will suffer silently & alone.

Black men - Japanese woman Hawaii

OTrying to go for a walk this morning. I heard what sounded like 3 black men laughing boisterously about the Japanese sticker on my car and going and finding someone Japanese .the something that sounded spiteful about hurting me (though they don't know who) and showing everyone how they help me. It broke my meditation period. I saw the 3 loud/rude men. This is a place where people go for quiet peaceful morning walks. 

Aside from a literal few black/African American men I've met...most of them I avoid because they are totally disrespectful of Japanese women and seem to think that it's their way of making us participate in our "culture" by being pimps. Most of them are way bigger and more aggressive in pursuit of securing a "Hoe" as they refer to most Asian women on island. I don't like a majority of them, personally. 

Guys- the Hawaii type "why post?"

Since its out to some of the Locals that some of my Overseas relatives caused security strife on island. Iow:- they blame me for costing them a ton of money in fresh background checks on their security staff. (One owner said to my face). 

I just want to run through some of the local "types" I've learned to spot in a few years. I'm also posting because these men make the horror stories that women share on island. The stories that keep military wives & kids on mainland. The women who are trapped in Hawaii due to court or financial destitution from the men involved.

In the midst of Hawaii state having laws that don't permit people involved in court proceedings to "Leave" the island state as if it's Attica;- 

it would be Great if there are laws or a system that "Checks on its vacationing newcomers with round trip tickets a day or even 6hrs before departure." (Especially single women)

Also if you come to Hawaii make sure there is more than texting relatives or a phone call back home to check in. FaceTime or Video Skype the room/area just to see who might be there, or um Here.

Guys - the "Hawaii Type" - fedZ

The fedZ - they don't look like the tatted up MMA star Police. These guys are the clean cut model type (2009-2015) who may be ready to make their tabloid review with unforsaken "dad bod" in the near future (present). They are the rule breakers who can bust ur face with a golf club, drop you out of the helicopter to some sharks over by O beach. We know there are 20tagged Tigers, estimated 100 @ islands not including hammerheads.

Rumoured They used to run their own "prostitution stables". Steer away from the pretty boys, some get their hot cars from US gov. Others are hustling trust fund babies.

Guys - the "Hawaii Types" - drama king

The Drama King - he has the primo pad/ location, even if it's a vacation rental. At any age he can still pick up women within a 45min drive on island. He lures them. They lie about their relationship to him. His friends, Need to be unreliable enough to preserve friendship and stay out of the way of the police. Usually an angry boyfriend or husband will appear, joined by cops not soon after.

He also is the one to rescue the fair maiden in a pit of other lesser drama kings.

Guys - the "Hawaii types" - status quo

The Status quo local- 1st read about all the other types of guys here in Hawaii, the USS err USA sex vacation state. 

The status quo local knows he can (this may be past tense in near future) live off his exotic HawAii local woman...either from buy-me-drinke bar money or strip club money in exchange for "protection". Protection? Protection of him not being hungry or broke. Aka - a pimp. 

Many do have martial arts training and do actually loose their tempers and destroy property or become abusive. Though many are sexy like male hula dancers and fighters should be.

This really applies to most of the other types of men who reside in Hawaii who don't or can't support a woman. Because the woman typically has to be a "woman of the night" in order to make ends meet (mostly for him). And it includes all of the theft & social problems of highly competitive bill paying for the cost of living on the island. finding a man "out here" in the islands who can keep the drama to a minimum is trying to say the least. 

Guys - the "Hawaii type" - Married

The Married - this is so classic. 

• the wife doesn't want to sign the actual divorce papers, won't let him go

• is "top secret" military and hides everything on the mainland and in his secret computer- pics of kids & all. Might let u in on it l8r like after a year.

• got a divorce from his last wife. You saw the court filing online Hawaii state. Then, he JUST got married again a month after you were dating him and still dating.

• swingers- calls his wife to talk to you and she claims they are divorced. Everyone else tells you he's married and treats women badly after month 2. Expect to get a restraining order by that time. Believe your trusted homies.

• most classic- openly states they are staying together for the kids but doesn't want to be seen out in public with you for the Kid's sake. 

Guys - the "Hawaii Types" - rehab

The Rehab victim- this one is simple. Go out, have a great time, are in public when he passes out and valets need to carry him to his car u now have to drive. IOW:- you are his "party chauffeur" 

Be sure to ask if he has any health conditions or medication. He takes before this date. Things could get gnarly to the hospital for you or him or his hapless victims.

I had one of these men seem awake when we got to his house and pass out once he opened the door. He passed on on his way out the car door and lay on the pavement by the car so I spent the night sleeping "in his car". Ugh

Guys - the "Hawaii types"- match

The Match dah cum Guy- go yuk! Then realise the bar fly guys that you recently deleted, you remember that the profile photo you clicked No!. He just sent it to you. Just hustled your number from a guy you exchanged numbers with. Go ugh, groan, grrrr as the texts flood in and you wonder how the online site gave him your contact number. Well, they didn't.

Several phone calls later & after Valentine's and Mardis gras partying with the we exchanged numbers person u met all with all his friends.... You learn he Gave ur number to the guy u deleted... Groan

Oh, and if your like me, have the online dating site as a gift from a "nice guy friend". He gets middle of the night calls from other women who used the site to date and call him because they were assaulted and need a shoulder to cry on. 

Guys - the "Hawaii types" -CL

The "Hawaii/Oahu CL guy"- gathered from a variety of sources. 

1. hpd- tries to find out where you live in less than 3minutes. Stalker? Then offers money for sex in person and if u think it's play ( like one Columbia Uni. soon to be & on vay-Kay found out) they arrest you after sex. Arrested for real. Makes u a prostitute after agreeing to a date.

2. The sexercist- wants big women, or skinny women- his plan? To have sex in exchange for trying to help the woman loose or gain weight. Online listing makes this otherwise talented person an airmatress porn star! Oh not kidding he'll offer the bigger women weight loss products so they have a friend and hope of returning. Seems agreeable? Maybe not to the last 20 women he knocked up (be mindful of dhs Mail on door when entering)

 • remember - air mattresses are disposable & anyone around won't remember you because they are entertained and repulsed by the 5-10 women that go in & out of the porn laden room in their apartment each day.

Finished dating in Hawaii

It seems everything has come to a complete and unstoppable Halt in my dating life.
It's almost too gruesome to unpack. And, thankfully the rain that's been pouring for the past 3 days is making everything wet.
Dating the past week really put a stop to things. I was seeing an executive of a local Hawaii company. I had put an end to the dating since he only expressed interest in US based business, and doesn't want to get married, had a brutal drinking habit along with a couple of seedy and greedy girlfriends (and lived with one). So, go YIK. Now add in the fact that he was Japanese-American descent and not a "newbie" minority in the USA by SBA standards of 1 generation.
Then top it off with his habit to go to both Karaoke bars and Korean hostess bars in Hawaii where he bragged in his car rides of him & his friends splurging 10's of thosands of $$$$$$'s on the women. And, all followed up with a statement "if you need to prostitute and get busted, I'll bail you out." That was aside from going to a dinner at an acceptable chinese restaraunt with one of his business collegues and his "wife" who was from Osaka. The first words out of his collegues mouth were about someone potentially dying at some jobsite. And, it was followed up by his wife sending old-fashioned death threats to me with her chopsticks. My date then scolded me after the whole thing was over and became abusive.
I told one of my girlfriends about this and she simply said;- people like that are not your friends.
I couldn't have agreed more. That was over 6 mos. ago. Then he reappeared one night 5 months later at my apartment door, not just any night, but the night of my deceased brother's birthday! I should have called for a restraining order the following week.

The past week, he contacted me again. We went out for dinner and a few drinks. No major drama and he claimed that he had "cut down" on drinking. I think he just needed to hire a driver and skip the phone call to me. Though, given all that was said and happened in the past and that he's also older than I am, I really really don't think he gets it yet. He not only choses to absolutely humiliate me, treat me lower than a 3rd class citizen, but thinks that i'm willing to put up with it?! WTF... so I turned down the offer to see him again and attend his birthday at his family's home, as politely as was possible for me. Dating this Japanese-American was the most humililating experience, beyond what white racists do (where i've been abducted and assaulted), to me who is a newbie Japanese-American in the USA. My more respectable Japanese relatives want me to leave Hawaii because of dating like this--- no wonder. And, chances of my finding any hapiness in the USA seems absolutely futile.